Thursday, March 31, 2005
Terri
Let me pick on just one teeny part of this mess. The fight over who gets the last say between parents and spouse. I don't see why there's any debate in this part of it. You can choose your spouse, but you have no say in who your parents are. Why does everyone automatically decide that "Father Knows Best" or you have "to honor your father and mother."
You didn't have any choice about who brought you into this mess. You had no choice over whether you even wanted into this mess. They decided -- and way too often, they didn't really decide. You just happened from the result of a couple of idiots who decided to "make love" in the back seat of an AMC Gremlin groovin' to a Kenny G cassette. And nine months later, they automatically became knowing parents - as if they get some special super-parent power to really know what's best for their kids.
Bull Shit. Your spouse, for better or for worse, is the person you decided you wanted to spend the rest of your life with. Maybe the decision wasn't the best you've made, but you did make. If you hate the decision, get a divorce. Otherwise it's a decision you made. I think the people you want to be with are the ones who should make the decision about what happens to you if you can't make it for yourself. And if you make the wrong decision or have to make the decision, don't take it out on your kids when you have them.
